Repair After Conflict

Finding our way back.

Why this helps: sorting out what each of you felt and needed makes reconnecting easier. Processing time is okay, and written repair counts too.

How to use it: fill in your side first, then make your best guess at theirs.

Members can fill this in online and keep their answers in their Library. Come back and edit it any time. Or download the PDF to print.

The worksheet, as designed. The same content is written out below.

My side

What happened
What I felt
What I needed

What happened, from where they stood
What I think they felt
What I think they needed

What do we both want or care about?Example: we both want to feel heard.

Go at your own pace. You can come back to this.

1 What I want to own

2 What I want to ask for

3 How I’ll reach out Pick one

(circle one)

I’ve been thinking about
I’m sorry for
What I needed was
Can we?

What would help me handle this differently next time?

For reflection and practice, not diagnosis. Bring it to your next session if you’d like to talk it through.

Sources and credits. SOLA · NEURODIVERGENT EDUCATION & COMMUNITY