Practice
Mine or Masked?
Values Series · Masking & values
Some beliefs are your values. Others are rules you picked up to stay safe or fit in. Neither is shameful. Sorting them gives you choices.
The worksheet, as designed. The same content is written out below.
Example: The belief or "should": "I should never ask for help." Where I learned it: School, being told I was "lazy". Mine · Learned · Unsure: Learned. The value underneath (if any): Independence, and I can still use support to get there
| The belief or "should" | Where I learned it | Mine · Learned · Unsure | The value underneath (if any) |
|---|---|---|---|
Stuck for ideas?
Common "shoulds": be productive every day · don't make a fuss · keep up with everyone · look people in the eye · never cancel plans · push through
Sources and credits. Go slowly. Masking often began as protection, and it's okay to keep some of it where you still need it.