Before we get started
Language and Identity
Words matter. Yours most of all.
The words we use for our brains shape how we see ourselves. There's no single right vocabulary, only the one that feels true to you.
The guide, as designed. The same content is written out below.
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Identity-first vs. person-first
Many autistic self-advocates prefer this. Autism is part of who they are, not something they carry around.
Some people, families and professionals prefer this. It puts the person before the diagnosis.
The person gets to choose. Ask, then follow their lead.
Who's who
— a group with many kinds of brains: all of us together
— one person whose brain diverges from the expected norm
— one person whose brain fits the expected norm
A person isn't "neurodiverse"; a group is. It's an easy mix-up, and a gentle one to correct.
Pride & symbols
The infinity symbol is widely used for neurodiversity pride: endless variation, no one right way to be.
Many autistic advocates prefer it (often in gold) to the puzzle piece, which some feel implies something is missing. Views differ.
Words to leave behind
→ "is" (she is autistic)
→ describe specific support needs
→ "support needs", or "disabled" if they use it
Find your words.
Use these alone, in session, or with someone you trust. Your answers can change over time, and that's allowed.
You don't owe anyone a label. You're allowed to try words on.
For reflection and practice, not diagnosis. Bring it to your next session if you'd like to talk it through.